Stillbirths still happen?

“Sad news” was the title of a Facebook note published by a friend of mine who I’ve known since high school.  She and her husband have been married about 7 years and she was pregnant with their first child, a little boy.  He was due around mid-April.  However, he was born on April 1 instead, stillborn.  I’m absolutely distraught for her and her husband.  Apparently, the baby died in the womb 1-2 days before, and they can’t explain it.  She carried the precious cargo for almost 9 months, and now they are planning a funeral instead of navigating lives as new parents.

I’m still in shock.  The first thing that comes to mind is: this can still happen in this day and age? I suppose the most tragic thing is that it was completely unforeseen.  I think the whole pregnancy was perfectly fine; they had no reason to expect anything but a healthy delivery in due course.

I’m so sad for my good friend.  She is a kind, giving, and non-judgmental person. She and her husband have given their lives in service – she is a social worker and he is a police officer.  Together they have deservedly gained the trust and support of a vast, varied community over the years.  This community was wildly excited about their starting a family of their own, and this community will support them anyway it can, but I can’t imagine the grief they must be grappling with right now.

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On another note, the charm I wanted to commemorate my own little one who didn’t make it should be done by the jeweler this week.  I felt tremendous relief at finally finding someone to do it and having it started.  The next step will be to discuss how I want to attach it to my bracelet; apparently, there are a few options.  I can’t wait to have a little something to carry with me, something always near me, something I can touch and feel for comfort.

 

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